Comments on: Marital Angst http://impostormom.wordpress.com/2008/04/08/marital-angst/ Because everyone feels like a faker some of the time Wed, 07 Jul 2010 15:40:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: becoming-mommy http://impostormom.wordpress.com/2008/04/08/marital-angst/#comment-1146 becoming-mommy Wed, 09 Apr 2008 12:46:07 +0000 http://impostormom.com/2008/04/08/marital-angst/#comment-1146 Actually, if my husband would do something like that, I'd be ecstatic. All I'd ask is if there was an urgent matter like that, that he let me know as soon as possible. Even if it was a call on his way back home "oh, by the way. The doctor said I had to have surgery right away so I scheduled it for XXX". Because that would mean he actually went. In our house the Hubby acts more like a middle schooler when it comes to stuff like that. To get him to go, I have to make the appointment, trick him into going, and then repeat for any follow up. Otherwise he only tells me he went and then I get the bill for "no-show". Or I get a call confirming that he'd cancelled his appointment. Or other such nonsense. I guess I'm a little different because the timing thing wouldn't figure in much. Thanks to Hubby's frequent disappearing acts I don't really rely on him for anything so his being out of comission would have a minimal effect on us. <em>becoming-mommy's last blog post..<a href='http://becoming-mommy.blogspot.com/2008/04/10-9-8.html' rel="nofollow">10, 9, 8....</a></em> Actually, if my husband would do something like that, I’d be ecstatic. All I’d ask is if there was an urgent matter like that, that he let me know as soon as possible. Even if it was a call on his way back home “oh, by the way. The doctor said I had to have surgery right away so I scheduled it for XXX”.
Because that would mean he actually went.
In our house the Hubby acts more like a middle schooler when it comes to stuff like that. To get him to go, I have to make the appointment, trick him into going, and then repeat for any follow up. Otherwise he only tells me he went and then I get the bill for “no-show”. Or I get a call confirming that he’d cancelled his appointment. Or other such nonsense.
I guess I’m a little different because the timing thing wouldn’t figure in much. Thanks to Hubby’s frequent disappearing acts I don’t really rely on him for anything so his being out of comission would have a minimal effect on us.

becoming-mommy’s last blog post..10, 9, 8….

]]> By: Robin http://impostormom.wordpress.com/2008/04/08/marital-angst/#comment-1147 Robin Tue, 08 Apr 2008 21:39:55 +0000 http://impostormom.com/2008/04/08/marital-angst/#comment-1147 Exactly what madame Queen said! <em>Robin's last blog post..<a href='http://wwwmylifeasitis.blogspot.com/2008/04/still-alice.html' rel="nofollow">STill Alice</a></em> Exactly what madame Queen said!

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]]> By: Becky Y http://impostormom.wordpress.com/2008/04/08/marital-angst/#comment-1148 Becky Y Tue, 08 Apr 2008 20:37:51 +0000 http://impostormom.com/2008/04/08/marital-angst/#comment-1148 Oh boy. Yes, in this case I would have been upset too. Surgery is a big deal and I rely on my husband a LOT. Him being out of commission for weeks impacts how the household works TONS. It is most certainly cause for a phone call to discuss scheduling. <em>Becky Y's last blog post..<a href='http://ryanagi.blogspot.com/2008/04/name-that-tune.html' rel="nofollow">Name That Tune!</a></em> Oh boy. Yes, in this case I would have been upset too. Surgery is a big deal and I rely on my husband a LOT. Him being out of commission for weeks impacts how the household works TONS. It is most certainly cause for a phone call to discuss scheduling.

Becky Y’s last blog post..Name That Tune!

]]> By: Mom24 http://impostormom.wordpress.com/2008/04/08/marital-angst/#comment-1149 Mom24 Tue, 08 Apr 2008 20:00:27 +0000 http://impostormom.com/2008/04/08/marital-angst/#comment-1149 My husband would do this, and I would totally feel the way you do. Good luck. <em>Mom24's last blog post..<a href='http://4evermom.blogspot.com/2008/04/one-where-i-was-really-really-stupid.html' rel="nofollow">The one where I was really, really stupid</a></em> My husband would do this, and I would totally feel the way you do. Good luck.

Mom24′s last blog post..The one where I was really, really stupid

]]> By: Madame Queen http://impostormom.wordpress.com/2008/04/08/marital-angst/#comment-1150 Madame Queen Tue, 08 Apr 2008 18:43:09 +0000 http://impostormom.com/2008/04/08/marital-angst/#comment-1150 I think that's a man vs. woman thing. A woman would totally think about how it would affect the entire household while a man only thinks about how it will affect him. My husband wants to get rid of his car and get a motorcycle because it's cheaper on gas. But I'm always like "What if we have some kind of emergency and I need you to go pick up the kids. How are you going to pick up BOTH kids on a motorcycle?" <em>Madame Queen's last blog post..<a href='http://themadamequeen.blogspot.com/2008/04/no-complaints-here.html' rel="nofollow">No Complaints Here</a></em> I think that’s a man vs. woman thing. A woman would totally think about how it would affect the entire household while a man only thinks about how it will affect him.

My husband wants to get rid of his car and get a motorcycle because it’s cheaper on gas. But I’m always like “What if we have some kind of emergency and I need you to go pick up the kids. How are you going to pick up BOTH kids on a motorcycle?”

Madame Queen’s last blog post..No Complaints Here

]]> By: caramama http://impostormom.wordpress.com/2008/04/08/marital-angst/#comment-1144 caramama Tue, 08 Apr 2008 17:02:53 +0000 http://impostormom.com/2008/04/08/marital-angst/#comment-1144 You are not crazy, and I think most of us would be pretty pissed. I'd be furious, that's for sure. Besides having to consult about good timing because of what he will need and won't be able to do during recovery, it really does sound like he was thinking in terms of "I" instead of "we." And that is something that would make me so angry. I'm sorry to your hubby. You know how much I like him and I know what a great guy he is, but that was a really bad move. Next time if he has to schedule it, tell him to lead off with the timing issue and say he's "tentetively scheduled it" for whatever day. <em>caramama's last blog post..<a href='http://caramamamia.blogspot.com/2008/04/think-gypsies-will-take-her.html' rel="nofollow">Think The Gypsies Will Take Her?</a></em> You are not crazy, and I think most of us would be pretty pissed. I’d be furious, that’s for sure. Besides having to consult about good timing because of what he will need and won’t be able to do during recovery, it really does sound like he was thinking in terms of “I” instead of “we.” And that is something that would make me so angry.

I’m sorry to your hubby. You know how much I like him and I know what a great guy he is, but that was a really bad move. Next time if he has to schedule it, tell him to lead off with the timing issue and say he’s “tentetively scheduled it” for whatever day.

caramama’s last blog post..Think The Gypsies Will Take Her?

]]> By: Burgh Baby http://impostormom.wordpress.com/2008/04/08/marital-angst/#comment-1145 Burgh Baby Tue, 08 Apr 2008 15:58:31 +0000 http://impostormom.com/2008/04/08/marital-angst/#comment-1145 I got your back. I spent the weekend furious at mine for saying that we would take care of two little boys (ages 4 and 2) if a certain scenario were to play out. Um, hello, before you open our house up to two more kids, don't you think you should talk to your wife? Unless you want to suffer her wrath for days. Perhaps months. I'm with you--he could have phrased the whole thing a wee bit better so that you understood why he rushed into scheduling it. Surgery is definitely one of those things you discuss before doing. <em>Burgh Baby's last blog post..<a href='http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/BurghBaby/~3/265949960/yummmm-cheese-ravioli-with-hint-of.html' rel="nofollow">Yummmm . . . Cheese Ravioli with a Hint of Garlic</a></em> I got your back. I spent the weekend furious at mine for saying that we would take care of two little boys (ages 4 and 2) if a certain scenario were to play out. Um, hello, before you open our house up to two more kids, don’t you think you should talk to your wife? Unless you want to suffer her wrath for days. Perhaps months.

I’m with you–he could have phrased the whole thing a wee bit better so that you understood why he rushed into scheduling it. Surgery is definitely one of those things you discuss before doing.

Burgh Baby’s last blog post..Yummmm . . . Cheese Ravioli with a Hint of Garlic

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