Apparently if you decided to settle down in the town you came to college for it is destined that eventually the majority of your friends will leave you. I have seen many friends move away over the past few years. We still talk but it’s just not the same. Now a good friend is pregnant with her first child, a little boy, and I find myself missing her terribly.

Not that I didn’t miss her before she got pregnant mind you but now I know I probably won’t be able to visit her in the hospital when she has her baby or come over and help her with her new little son. Sure, I’ll go visit but it won’t quite be the same.

I have other friends from years ago that have moved away and we all seem to have had children around the same time. Sometimes I wonder what it would have been like if we’d all stayed here. There would be 3 one-year-olds and a 6-month old between all of us. What a different world it would be from our previous post-college lives here in this town.

Recently my best friend learned that her husband has been offered a job about 5 hours from here so they’ll be moving soon too. We’ve known each other since the very first day of college and we both still live here. Our sons are six weeks apart. It makes me sad that they’ll be leaving. Friends that seem more like family. We’ve all grown up together.

That’s not to say that we don’t have friends that have also decided to stay here and make it their homes. They too have small children. We don’t see each other quite as often as we did in our pre-children days but that’s understandable. I’ve also had lots of opportunities to make new friends.

At least I can say that I keep in touch with the majority of those friends that have passed through what seems to be a transitional town. And even though our children won’t grow up together, at least we can share our trials and tribulations with each other from a far.